Let’s just be!
My kid is starting school in September! I know, right. But I just had him! What happened? He is starting in precoce in the local school. They can start when they turn 3. In September he will be 3 and 8 months.
As a consequence he is saying goodbye to his friends in crèche. This breaks my heart. It took a long time for him to be happy in crèche and to make friends. Now he runs to the door and can’t wait to play with Peter, Eva, Youni and all the other besties! They have really formed a great group and he talks about them constantly!
The sad news is that all of them are going to start school in September and not in the same school. We have already said good-bye to Martyna. She will spend the summer in her home country and when she comes back she will start precoce.
Tears were flowing on her last day.
I was getting prepared to comfort my little sad boy and to explain why life is the way it is. But you know what? I didn’t have to. My kid didn’t seem too affected by this. To be honest, I haven’t dared asking him about it because I don’t want to remind him of it. So maybe he hasn’t realized it and the reaction may come later. But I still think it is amazing how kids just pick life up and keep going. He goes to crèche not the least bothered by the fact that Martyna is no longer there, but instead focuses on all the other kids that are there.
Kids are so present in the present! We, the adults, should really take note! We get so caught up in the past and the future that we forget the present. We forget to enjoy and play in the present. Kids don’t do that. Kids don’t think about the consequences or how much pain they may or may not be in in the future. They just keep playing because that is what is happening right now!
When we grow up, we forget how to live in the now, especially when we become parents! We worry all the time! Are we doing this right, should I have done this differently? How will it be in the future, etc. etc! We constantly worry, and the older we get the more we worry.
Let’s learn from our kids and be more in the present! Whether you are trying to get pregnant, are pregnant to your chin or just had your kid, this message is for all of you! We can’t change the past, and the future hasn’t happened yet. The only thing we can influence is the present. So let’s get back into the present and be! Life happens now!
If you have your newborn or toddler with your right now, then try to notice how (s)he is breathing! Notice their stomach moving up and down! This is how you should breathe too! Breathing this way will calm your mind, body and spirit and will bring you back into the now!
Our kids are amazing! They are much more in touch with nature than we are! Take note and learn! I can’t wait for what other lessons my kids have in store for me! But for now, I will breathe and be in the present!
Anne Louise is a mother of two small boys and works as a Holistic Health Coach in Luxembourg. She helps her clients lose weight, gain more energy, increase quality of sleep and finally feel awesome about themselves! Struggling with weight herself for most of her life, she can truly relate to her clients and offers a safe space to talk about issues around food, body image and self-love.